Emotional trauma kills faster than Ebola-Abara-iwuji Emmanuel
If you’ve experienced an extremely stressful or disturbing event that left you feeling helpless and emotionally out of control, you may have been traumatized. Psychological trauma can leave you struggling with upsetting emotions, memories, and anxiety that won’t go away. It can also leave you feeling numb, disconnected, and unable to trust other people.
Facts about emotional trauma
1. Emotional traumatic situations are very dreadful and deadly. They are like the thin line between sanity and insanity.
2. Emotional trauma is like struggling with the fangs of death but hoping to survive.
3. Emotional trauma is a feeling of disbelief of ones thought towards what is possible.
4. Emotional trauma is death personified in the uncertainty of situations around.
5. Emotional trauma is deadlier than Ebola because it is not an actual disease rather it is subtle and even more dangerous because it shatters the hopes of the host and leaves the person totally helpless begging for death or any glimmer of hope.
What Emotional Trauma is?
Emotional and psychological trauma is the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter your sense of security, making you feel helpless in a dangerous world. Traumatic experiences often involve a threat to life or safety, but any situation that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and isolated can result in trauma, even if it doesn’t involve physical harm. It’s not the objective circumstances that determine whether an event is traumatic, but your subjective emotional experience of the event. The more frightened and helpless you feel, the more likely you are to be traumatized.
Emotional and psychological trauma can be caused by:
One-time events, such as an accident, injury, or a violent attack, especially if it was unexpected or happened in childhood.
Ongoing, relentless stress, such as living in a crime-ridden neighborhood, battling a life-threatening illness or experiencing traumatic events that occur repeatedly, such as bullying, domestic violence, or childhood neglect.
Commonly overlooked causes, such as surgery (especially in the first 3 years of life), the sudden death of someone close, the breakup of a significant relationship, or a humiliating or deeply disappointing experience, especially if someone was deliberately cruel.
Coping with the trauma of a natural or manmade disaster can present unique challenges—even if you weren’t directly involved in the event. In fact, while it’s highly unlikely any of us will ever be the direct victims of a terrorist attack, plane crash, or mass shooting, for example, we’re all regularly bombarded by horrific images on social media and news sources of those people who have been. Viewing these images over and over can overwhelm your nervous system and create traumatic stress.
A victim of emotional trauma shares her experience….
I was 3 years old when my father died. I was the Apple of my parent’s eyes especially my father. He loved me so much that even as a young child I didn’t need somebody to define what love meant.
When my father died, I felt his absence but as a child I couldn’t really tell what his demise meant deep down inside of me. My mother loved me too so maybe her love made me not to feel so much of the void left by my father.
Later on, my mother got married to another man. With this, I believed somehow that this my step father would somehow love me like my father did, little did I know that I was having wild dreams of my own.
I had always wanted to have siblings of my own but instead their birth bringing happiness rather it brought rejection, dejection to me rather than the joy I was meant to feel. My step father and my mother sent me out of the house at an adolescent age. As a result of this I was exposed to child molestation, abuse and harassment, up on until now the scars left on me and the memory it brought are indelible.
As a result of this many ugly incidents that happened, I was deeply depressed and traumatised.
In fact I almost wanted to take my life. There were many nights that I cried and wished I wasn’t brought into this world to go through this much hurt and pain that I went through. Throughout my university period, I was my own mother father and even guardian. But all through these periods in my life, God helped me inmensely by sending several good samaritans who helped me throughout my school period. As a speak with you I am a fresh graduate of Imo State University, I studied Agricultural Science…..Rose!
There are many experiences of what trauma can cause and how many are victims of it.
More often than not this trauma we speak of actually start from the home.
Many times parents put their children in such situations(like that of rose) by rejecting and abandoning their children. Some actually go to the extent where they pressure this young children to leave the house and fend for themselves thereby leaving the children exposed to the harshness and unpleasant air of the outside world…. Such situations are really depressing and traumatising.
Research actually has it that 60% of such parents are acting out of past experiences. Most of them were actually either experienced domestic violence and troubled homes as a child or they were brought up by wicked Foster parents/guardians as in the case of the victim above.
Some parents actually go as far as urging their children to join cyber fraudsters (Yahoo) in other for them to be breadwinners in the home or to be accepted as a member of the family.
In other cases some people face depressive and traumatising situations due to their crave and insatiable nature. Such people always want to be noticed, recognised and eulogized at all cost. They will go to any extent in other to make sure that they achieve what they want at all cost even at the detriment of others and many times they are victims of their insatiable nature that always finds a way to hunt them later on.
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs states…
“[We] hunger for affectionate relations with people in general, namely, for a place in [a] group, and [we] will strive with great intensity to achieve this goal. [In some ways, we] will want to attain such a place more than anything else in the world[.] …
All people in our society…have a need…for…self-respect, or self-esteem, and for the esteem of others. … [W]e have what we may call the desire for reputation or prestige…, recognition, attention, importance or appreciation. Satisfaction of the self-esteem need leads to feelings of self-confidence, worth,…and adequacy of being useful and necessary in the world.
But thwarting of these needs produces feelings of inferiority, of weakness and of helplessness. These feelings in turn give rise to either basic discouragement or else…neurotic trends.”
Maslows theory gives us a clear view of how some people unknowingly mount pressure on themselves because they want feel among or want to measure up others at all cost which in turn takes their disturbs their peace and comfort and also places them on a position that they cannot maintain which is in turn another challenge for them to overcome and on the long run leads to regret, depression and emotional trauma
Suggested ways of getting out emotional trauma…
1.Learn not to overthink the happenings around you.
2.Learn not to compare yourself with other people.
3. Learn to always seek medical advice whenever you feel depressed or a psychiatrist.
4. See difficulties as tenets of life but always believe it won’t last forever and you will go through it.
5. Learn to confide in friends and family or people who make you forget your past.
6. Learn to laugh, love, smile and always get enough rest.
These few key points listed above will help you stay away from emotional trauma.
This article [Emotional trauma kills faster than Ebola] was suggested by;
Nwabekee Destiny Uzochukwu and inspired by Rose Chidera and written by Abara-Iwuji Emmanuel. email@example.com
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